Failed? Try again..

At a glance, this might seem to be a nice doodle, and just that.

But it’s more than that – this doodle represents an important lesson to my daughter (and a great reminder to me) that I would treasure.

Only last year, Arts was a struggle to her. She has always thought that she is not creative and artistic, hence she is unable to make a great piece for her Arts homework. Arts is a chore for her (and for me, it creates stress when she keeps asking on what to do for her Arts projects!). I have seen this mental block in many people before and I want to teach her such important lesson on self-fulfilling prophecy (and to avoid it by taking small steps).

Eventually, we found out that she was not confident of her ability to design something from scratch. So, that became the entry point for us to encourage her to start copying first. Of course, after a few rounds of Arts homework, she slowly developed her confidence in visual aesthetic elements. The struggle now becomes something of the past, though she still relies on a copy.

This whole experience just gives me a perspective that we can extend to other parts of our life. When faced with a difficult situation that raises doubt, find a way to take the first small step. Is it updating that resume? Or making a call ? Or is it just taking a break to step back and ask expert on the small step we can take?

Just as much as my daughter learnt her lesson, I did too..

2 thoughts on “Failed? Try again..

  • Thanks again for sharing. I’m just curious how did your daughter overcome her art mental block? My 8 year old son has the same problem with art or any project that he is not keen and therefore he doesn’t have any idea where to begin and just gives up.

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    • Good question! We encouraged her to explore what she can do. In fact, I just asked her on what moved her. She said that she knew she cannot draw, but she can copy – so she started copying first. The key here is to remove the fear and find that small step to build the confidence. When they were really small, I used to have bedtime conversation every night and if they expressed their fear, I would ask them any example they had where they overcame their fear & anchored that feeling to remind them how courages they were and they can do it again. I guess, each child is different and it’s quite fascinating to just find out ways that make them tick.

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